

Today we got our bandages off and stitches out from the right elbow surgery. I asked a few questions we've been concerned about. Here's some info we want to share:
- Still having wrist pains, but nowhere near as bad as before. I had made an update about a week ago saying things were improving, but unfortunately they aren't in the wrist department.
- There's still lots of internal swelling in our right elbow. That's why it hurts just to rest it on surfaces like an armrest or a bed. Additionally, that's why we can't bend our arm as far anymore.
- We have to keep stretching it with occasional arm bending exercises and just wait it out. It'll heal up soon.
- It's possible that as the elbow heals, it can relieve pressure on our wrist and wrist tendons.
- If our right wrist tendons don't feel better by the time we heal from surgery #4 (left elbow surgery), we may need physical therapy.
With that out of the way, now I want to talk about our
Expectations and thoughts
While we're glad to hear things are expected to improve, we're not happy about the mention of physical therapy.
Basically, for about half a year in around 2022-2023, I spent a very long time going to physical therapy for our right wrist, twice a week. All kinds of exercises, pushing my boundaries, various tactile methods too. But I always left still in my wrist brace and with no improvement. Not even after 6 months or so straight. So I gave up.
Also, I've been to a few other physical therapies for other things too. One important thing to mention is PT can be very sensory overwhelming. The physical aspect alone can be a lot, especially with something as painful as what we've been through. But on top of that there's always other people at these places. Sometimes there's music playing. And 90% of the time, your physical therapist won't shut up. Seriously, when I went to PT for my neck at the end of last year, the therapists there were not just talkative, they were nagging, and with our autism it drove me up the wall. I couldn't focus. And on top of that, especially with how many boomers live in this place, there's almost always very loud old people making aggravating sounds, coughing, sniffling very loudly, grunting, laughing, talking...
The point I was trying to make is we have an unpleasant history of PT and poor expectations of it. If we have to go to PT, we'll be expecting to be overwhelmed. We aren't looking forward to it, but if we have to, we have no choice, because we'd rather suffer for a number of hours through PT than be stuck without a right wrist forever.
But on the bright side, I also want to point out: When we went to wrist PT several years ago, we also had carpal tunnel entrapment, cubital tunnel entrapment, and CRPS. If we do have to go to PT this time, it's entirely possible it could help more than before.
One more thing I wanna share... while we're definitely far from a full recovery, we are using the PC again. I'd like to share more about this another time, but ever since Sunny has entered my life, our health has drastically improved. I couldn't even use the PC before for fear of strange unexplained pains. Now we use it every day - with only one arm, yes, but still, it's a huge improvement. We've also found we can safely play games as long as we play on controller. Keyboard and mouse is out of the question right now.
If I want to one day do Figura comms and earn money again, it'll be a long time from now. I dearly, dearly miss being able to do art, drive around anywhere I want, go eat out at my own volition, and play something like minecraft (on mouse and keyboard) for hours and hours and hours. I want my life back. But we're still way closer to that than a few months ago. This progress must be celebrated.
Also, I have to point out how funny it is that our next surgery is scheduled for June 4th, or one day before the big Deltarune chapter drop. Gonna be awfully hard to play the game with our good arm in a cast, huh? But we have no choice, as Deltarune fans who don't wanna be spoiled...
Stay strong, Eir and Sunny!
Thank you! We appreciate any and all support especially considering we had to leave our old friend group before. With you and everyone else we met, we feel much, much more at home... Like we aren't facing this alone, you know?